the company we keep

You lie with dogs, you get up with fleas...yah, my mom always told me that growing up...and for the most part I listened..."you're known by the company you keep" she said...That one I heard alot too...but we all like to think that we know better , that we can somehow avoid all these sayings and life will be grand...
Now, having a solid 3 decades under my belt in no way garauntees that I am wise or infallible...I know right?
Anyhoo the one thing in life that I know for certain is that I am confident enough in myself to avoid certain behaviours and practices that may be unresistable to others.

I have been called many things in my life, but although they have not always been positive, I welcome them if they were a direct result of a part of my personality that took me a few years to wear without regret..I am blunt, some say rude, outspoken...I like to think though that I am just real...I honestly just don't like to pretend...I always envied my older brother that gift he had of imagining that he was a sword fighter, sniper and even space alien. He would run around the yard just screaming his heart out...I on the other hand had to go grab a book, I just could not get into pretending to see something that was not there...

I daydream, dont get me wrong, but I cannot and will never try to be or act in a way that I am not absolutely true to...If I don't like something I act accordingly. Now don't get me wrong I am not a mean person, I will never intentionally hurt anyone, but I won't pretend...I treat people the way I want to be treated and expect the same...I am loyal to my friends and expect the same...Is that really asking too much?

You can run from alot of types of people in life, but you can never run from a liar...true story...If you cannot believe someone there is no trust and if there is no trust, tell me what do we have left...Some people make it a part of their everyday life to wear two faces...they smile and act friendly to people while murdering that person's character every chance they get...While they use them for their own gain...Some people are just made that way...

Now while I have been known to make the snarky comment or even express my intense dislike of someone, what you will NEVER see is me then facing that person all smiles and friendly...If I dislike you I simply stay away...and I welcome anyone else to do the same toward me...What is the use of being fake? Why do people feel the need to be that way...That takes up too much energy and is just plain unnecessary...

While my way may not be the best, it definitely is the most honest...and that's fine by me...
I am sure I am not the only one to ever be on the wrong side of that equation, in fact I know that I have been that person before...when I was 11 years old!  You kinda realise after a while that people just don't like that trait in people...

The best way to make friends is not to pretend, but to be yourself, because that HAS to be enough...Every day I leave my home and return determined to raise my kids in a way that I would love for other people I interact with to be...confident enough to know that they don't need to lie or pretend to make friends, to be good friends, to simply treat others the way they want to be treated...

Loyalty is a commodity in short supply so I encourage people to recognize when someone deserves it and dole it out accordingly...One of the best compliments I have ever been paid was that I was extremly loyal to my friends...That meant so much more to me that being told I was cute...cuz that was a given...lol...but seriously? I would rather be alone than to be surrounded by hypocrites...I would sit in a corner by myself rather than sit with a group of people I don't care for...does that make me a snob? probably...will i sleep better at night? damn right I will...cuz I looove sleep and I refuse to lose it over people that are not worth it...
I am pretty cut throat with my friendships...but...I try my hardest to be a good friend...and so I refuse to accept anything less than what I impart...

"This is my face...deal with it"...that pretty much sums up my view on life...but I say it with a genuine smile...

it's friday

Well it is, it's Friday.  Thank goodness for Rebecca Black cuz I would have never known.  All of us Cre-comms have been running ragged for the past month...so much to do but it's all coming to a head early next week. 
The place has been booked and schedules have been cleared for one afternoon anyway, to just pretend that everything before that day was a mere dream.  Hopefully the weather stays nice-ish and we can stuble through the streets freely without fear of wiping out in any snow banks.
Til then though its just a bit more grinding before the party can begin...